Thursday, September 6, 2007


It was DB's first day of school and he had a miserable time. Everyone in class was able to finish two pages of work while he only got up to the second question. That meant that everyone got to something fun after they were done.

DB is very intelligent and he is completely aware that he should be able to do everything the other kids in his class can do because he has the smarts to do it. He just doesn't have the skills. It's so freakin' sad and frustrating.

OMG!!!!!! They expect him to be able to read Rashi script and write the same sentence into Hebrew script. He can't even read Hebrew print that well, if at all. WHAT IS THEIR PROBLEM?!?!

He said to me tonight that he tells his father he needs easy work, "but Daddy says the work should be hard to help me learn better. But Mommy, Einstein became smart because he didn't give up not because he went to a hard school" Then DB explained that "easy" means that he would be able to do it. "If I don't learn anything this year I will go into fifth grade without any knowledge. I don't want to go to camp this summer 'cause I want to be able to study so I won't forget stuff and I'll be ready for school."

He wants to do well so badly. This is not a lazy child. If he doesn't do his homework, it's because he can't. He gets so scared and says I can't go to school tomorrow my teachers will be angry at me that I haven't done my homework right. He doesn't like asking me for help, but he does. But then his teachers write that he can't have help with certain parts and he cries. Because he wants my help but won't allow himself to have it.

The worst thing about this is that he could go to a different school that would be able to help him, but his father is preventing this from happening. It's just a control issue. So now DB will have to stay in this school until a motion is written, then a cross motion, then possibly another cross motion and then a hearing. It's insane. All because his father doesn't want to believe that anything I say (or 7 other professionals) might be good for DB.

I'm no longer angry at my stbx for anything that has happened between us. I've gotten past that a looooong time ago. BUT the things he does that hurt DB....



Jack's Shack said...

Sorry to hear that. It sounds quite unfair. Children shouldn't hate school.

anon1226 said...

This is so sad to hear

but i dont get why the school wouldnt help him instead of being angery at him, its not that he is a bad kid,its just that he needs some help,

may hashem help you that evryhting should already be good by you,
and his dad should start looking at his child instead on him self

Tr8erGirl said...

so sad, but I also wonder why the school isn't providing the support that they should be....

fashionista cat in a zero gravity shoe-store said...

Maybe you can find some fun stuff for him at You can generate your customized word mazes and crossword puzzles there etc. (I've got a subscription, let me know if you need anything that requires the password.)

come running said...

Right there with you... I believe that children should look forward to school and learning new things. DB's at the point where he does a lot if not most of his learning at home.

anon and tr8er,
The school's not angry at him they just believe that if he can get by why should they help him reach his true potential. Ugh! I hate that word... used to hear it all the time when I was in school.

Thank you for your help. I'm definitely going to look at the site now, but it sounds like it would help. Oh! Also looked into the mind mapping...
thanks soooo much and I'll keep you posted.