Thursday, May 1, 2008

She Wouldn't Listen Anyway

I just found out that DB's dad, my ex, got engaged the last days of Pesach. While I am very happy for this occurrence I do feel bad for her. If I felt it would do any good, I would tell her the reasons why I wanted a divorce and that she should protect herself and her children and run very fast and far away.

I like her. She's sweet and treats DB nicely which is extremely important. It sounds like she comes from a nice family because her parents also treat DB well. I just feel so bad for her children and worry about their safety like I worry about DB's when he's with his dad.

It would be nice to think that the ex has changed, but because of his recent behavior I know that isn't so.


MK said...

It's difficult to see the ex moving on (supposedly happy) and not wonder "Why not me?". I think you are wise not to say anything to her, obviously she won't believe you anyway.
So look at the bright side, perhaps she will get him to leave you an DB alone.

Iy"h simchas by you soon. :-)

Tr8erGirl said...

Wow - what a surprise!
Interestingly, my x's "new" gf told him she wanted a list from me of his faults - I thought that was pretty amusing, but didn't indulge. I figured she should figure them out on her own, but thought it was an interesting request. Perhaps your x's finace will get around to asking you....

therapydoc said...

My question is, Why wouldn't women first check with the ex? Talk about a reference.

I wonder if there's an isur of lifne' iver, putting a stumbling block in front of a blind person, in not telling. If he's changed for the better, let him tell her. But someone could send her an anonymous note.

MK said...

Does anybody honestly think that someone can give an objective opinion about their ex?

come running said...

It's actually not difficult to see him moving on. I have been davening for just this.

I don't think she's going to, and it's a shame. I just hope that her children will be safe.

That someone is not going to be me. I can't and don't want to get involved in his personal life. I am trying to get away from his craziness.

I am sure there are such people who can give an unbiased view.