Monday, March 9, 2009


I will not be taken for granted. I feel like I am taken for granted. I am not in a good mood. I might be pms'ing but that's not really the point.

The point is that I just asked him something last night that he not do in the future, and then he goes and does something similar again tonight. Well, guess what! I'm not just here when he remembers me. It's freakin past 10 p.m. and I had to call you. Well, I'm not going to do that again! Maybe I make it too easy in certain respects that I'm almost always available. Well, I'm not going to be anymore.

I'm so angry.

I'm so hurt. I'm not angry. I'm disappointed... disappointed to know that it's not really important and it doesn't really matter if he calls. It hurts... it hurts so bad. There are tears running down my face right now.

I don't need to worry if he's going to read this. He doesn't read the blog... especially if I don't tell him a new post is up. I feel like I'm being taken for granted more and more. I don't understand. I just talked to him about it last night. I was calm... no tears, no hysterics, just asking him for the future, and then he goes and does something similar tonight. I know I'm repeating myself. It hurts. I want him to go away. I don't want to hurt like this. I don't want to allow myself to hurt like this. I don't know how to do this. Maybe I'm just messed up. Maybe I just don't deserve this or maybe I just don't know how to be in a relationship.

I'm angry, hurt, disappointed, let down. It seems like it's a pattern. Or maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm pushing him away. I wouldn't be surprised. Maybe it would just be easier for him if he only had to worry about his kids and himself.

It hurts. I thought I was supposed to be happy now.

The funny thing about this is that he has absolutely no clue how I feel right now. He has no idea how much he has hurt me and how I feel like I'm not part of his life... I'm tired.

I don't want to have to break down in tears to get my point across about how much something means to me, but I don't know what to do.

Don't know if I'll post this. Actually I will. It makes me feel as if someone is really listening to me when I post.

Happy Purim! (yeah, right)


Anonymous said...

Odd, isn't it, that to really feel strongly bad about an action done to you, one must be in love?

Sweetie, he's may be your fiancee, he may be a wonderful person, but he's still a guy, and he is totally oblivious to the ill he's done.

Don't cry at him, it'll make him feel helpless. Don't yell or threaten to leave, men don't react well to ultimatums. Just tell him, softly, that you are hurt when he doen't...whatever.

He's still the good guy you thought he was, and he'll make it good.

How fortuitous a Purimstance, that on such a busy day I made a minute to see if you had posted lately!
Have a really wonderful Purim-

Yossi Ginzberg

come running said...


Thank you so much for writing. It helps to hear from a man how to handle it. And I know you're right... he has no idea.

I just need to make sure that I'm over most of the hurt when I tell him so that I don't get angry or cry. But it still hurts...

Tr8erGirl said...

wow - yossi - how insightful!

(im being serious, and not sarcastic like i usually am....)